Heated Contests
Often we find ourselves in the middle of heated contests. I know we shouldn’t care, but sometimes our emotions get the best of us. The fact is an hour after the game is over, the kids could care less if they won or lost, we need to remember that. But, during the heat of the battle how do the kids react? Where do they look for guidance? How are they supposed to handle pressure situations? Who do they learn from?
FROM US!!!!
It Just Doesn’t Matter
It is crucial to understand this. They feed off of our actions. If we stay positive and assure them that as long as they put out 150% the result doesn’t matter, then they will play calmly and aggressively. If we ride them and put pressure on them they may perform, but they may choke also. It really doesn’t matter what the result is as long as they learn from the experience.
Act Like You Have Been There
This is where "act like you have been there" come in. If the coach is tense and feels pressure, his team will reflect that times 10! Just like a supervisor at a place of employment must conduct themselves at a higher level, a coach must do the same. A good supervisor knows if he allows a minor slippage of quality that the employees will make even bigger errors in quality and judgment. Therefore, he must maintain a standard of quality higher than he expects from his subordinates.
An adult leading children has much more influence on his kids than a supervisor over his employees. Kids don’t know how to act, react, or perform in any situation. We have to teach them. We can tell them all we want, but we lead by example. They will follow and act as we do.
How to Handle it
When a situation arises that requires a cool head and focus, the coach must not be uptight. The coach has to be loose and able to calm the players down, not upset them (no matter what we are feeling inside). The player will know the situation and already be nervous. He will likely not understand these feelings nor how to deal with them, shouldn’t we try to assure him that this feeling is normal?
Sensory Perceptions
We have these emotions because they are sensory perceptions that warn us about the importance of the situation at any given time. Like the hair standing up on the back of our necks when we are scared, butterflies in the stomach and pressure packed sensations are sensory perceptions that alert us. This is not bad, this is good!
We have to assure the players that we are acutely aware of their tension, we understand what they are going through, and they would not be normal if they didn’t feel this way. We then have to make sure that they know that no matter what happens, the sun will come up tomorrow. That sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, as long as you are above .500 you are doing good! Failure in a pressure situation, is not failure, it is an opportunity for us to teach.
Success Win or Lose
Success in a pressure situation requires nothing from the coach other than to get out of the way and enjoy the smiles! We need to act like we have been there, because, in fact, we have. We need to make sure that we show empathy to the player and calm and assure them that they can do it, but if they don’t, life won’t stop. We need to make sure we put kids in a position to succeed, but encourage them when they fail . If we do this, we will have Acted Like We Have Been There.
What do you do to make sure the kids stay focused in pressure situations? Please share.
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29 April 2008
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